Have you ever had the feeling that you are not good enough?
I have and it's completely okay to feel that way. That is how our mind works. It's in our psychology to easily get afraid and convince yourself you are not good enough. All of us at some point in our life have experienced low self-esteem. We know how it feels.
There is always someone better than us. Of course there is and there will be. But that doesn't imply you don't matter or your contribution isn't important. We cannot take it personally, if someone is better than us. We need to try to improve ourselves, instead of getting depressed.
We all know somewhere inside we are good, but we just don't want to believe it. Why? Why don't we? Because everyone around us is trying to tell us that you are not important enough if you are not first.
Everyone knows the first person to set foot on the moon, but very few know who the second is.
Only one person gets the spotlight and we forget about the rest of us. We are constantly bombarded with expectations which are unnecessary most times. Some so-called standards. Beauty standards, educational standards, political standards. There are lots of them that we can list. Many of them are stereotypes. They all demand to be the best. But the thing is everyone is different. There are billions of people and billions of ways to be. Then how can one say only this is pretty?
There can be billions of ways to be pretty. It is quite easy to get pressured by society's stereotypes if you are a teenager or a youngster. We already have a lot to handle on our minds and these expectations just make it worse.
Just like I said before there are billions of ways to be and all of us have our unique way to be. We don't have to be accepted by anyone but ourselves. We are one and we are whole. WE can live our life peacefully and happily even if we aren't good enough for someone's standards. It's okay if you just pass and are not a ranker. It's okay to be a average.
Life is not a race.
You don't have to always run. You are allowed to take breaks and run only when you want. You are allowed to choose what path to run or walk or where to stop. It's completely up to you. It's your life, so take charge of it. Take control.
Do not let anyone's opinion affect your thoughts. Because in the end you are responsible for your own life.
by Kajal Koli